The Secrets of being one with her

You see a woman is one complex being that no man can uncover

She resembles her mother in wisdom

She resembles her father in strength

A woman is one being that a man cannot live without

She is a pillar of strength and the well of dignity in the home

A woman can never be seperated from her emotions

she cannot be seperated from her pain

She cannot be seperated from her glory moments and

She does not forget who she is

This is why a man will never  be able to live without a woman.

See a woman is the carrier of love and

she is a carrier of souls

Once we men understand that about our women

We will appreciate them even more

And that is the secret of being one with her.

Chris Hani at a glance

Extract from Wikipedia

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Political and military career
At age 15 Hani joined the ANC Youth League. As a student he was active in protests against the Bantu Education Act. Following his graduation, he joined Umkhonto we Sizwe (MK), the armed wing of the ANC. Following his arrest under the Suppression of Communism Act, he went into exile in Lesotho in 1963.^[1]
He received military training in the Soviet Union and served in campaigns in the Rhodesian Bush War in what is now Zimbabwe. Though the combined operations of MK and ZIPRA in the late 1960s were a military failure, they consolidated Hani's reputation as a brave soldier of the first black army to take the field against apartheid. His role as a fighter from the earliest days of MK's exile (following the arrest of Nelson Mandela and the other internal MK leaders at Rivonia) was an important part in the fierce loyalty Hani enjoyed later as MK's commander. In 1969 he produced and signed, with six others, the 'Hani Memorandum' which was strongly critical of the leadership of Joe Modise.^[2]
In Lesotho he was the target of assassination attempts, and he eventually moved to the ANC's headquarters in Lusaka, Zambia. As head of Umkhonto we Sizwe, he was responsible for the suppression of a mutiny by dissident ANC members in detention camps, but denied any role in abuses including torture and murder.^[1]
Having spent time as a clandestine organiser in South Africa in the mid-1970s, he permanently returned to South Africa following the unbanning of the ANC in 1990, and took over from Joe Slovo as head of the South African Communist Party in 1991. He supported the suspension of the ANC's armed struggle in favour of negotiations.^[3] However, he stated that he would not rule out violence in a speech on National television shortly before his death.

Conversation of ordinary South Africans

 doesn't it dazle you when a simple conversation turns into an issue of racism?

  

ANC wishes MP a speedy recovery

April 8 2013 at 01:49pm
By SAPA

Mike Watkins • a day ago

·         Wishing her well!" what hypocrisy from our racist and incompetent regime. The perpetraters will probably be terminated for having failed the regime's expectations. This smells like a plot to leverage internal opposition.Like the replacement of the Limpopo NEC and the dissolution of the ANC youth league.I'd not hesitate to put the SACP behind this. Its got the sort of foul smell of their scheming. I'd love to know what it was that Susan van der Merwe had done to irritate the regime? Beyond her just being White in a racist tripartheid regime. hope it was because she was white. Because then the Cronin and the Craven will have to watch their backs too.

Vuyolwethu Dondashe Mike Watkins • a day ago

What an immature thing to say. Why can't it be just about crime with you guys, why does it always have to be about racism? Your statements lack crediblity and lack evidence and are highly inappropriate even for you to say. Here's a suggestion for you - Go and read LAYING GHOSTS TO REST, maybe you'll lay yours after reading chapter 4

§  paco12 Vuyolwethu Dondashe • 4 hours ago

 

One little "elst were" statement and no contest - I wonder what goes on in your head when you are dealt a blow of reality?!

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GERALD ARNIE Vuyolwethu Dondashe • 6 hours ago

 

The ANC was conceived and bred because of Apartheid Without it, the party will die. Apartheid must be kept alive at all costs to ensure it's survival. Retaining ignorant voters is the first step in staying alive. The ghosts will never be laid to rest

§  Mike Watkins Vuyolwethu Dondashe • 17 hours ago

 

given that you can read I assume you are intelligent? Go and read some psychology references on brain-washing and how it works and is done.The regime made everything about race when tripartheid started telling the ANC what to do. It was no longer about SA then just self-enrichment. If you cannot see that you must be a product of Angie and Blade's incompetences. And I can only feel sympathy for you. Go well! and may you not pass on too young to have lived a full life!

§  soutie2 Vuyolwethu Dondashe • 21 hours ago

 

Since day one,everything has been about race in SA.

§  Vuyolwethu Dondashe soutie2 • 4 hours ago

 

But that needs to change. Point of correction to Gerald the ANC was established in 1912 and the Apartheid was conceived in 1948 therefore there is no way that the ANC was bred for Apartheid. I am not an ANC member but I am a member of this country that we both live in. Don't you think that maybe the brainwashing occurred during the days of Apartheid? Just asking. So if you wish to call me names Mile Watkins please call me a liberated mind that seeks to see beyond race, gender and religion, a mind that seeks to see this beautiful country's citizens get along. Of course I see what is happening in this country and I share the same views with you when it comes to self-enrichment that these politicians are after. But as long as we sit behind some computer or iPads or blackberries and don't do something about it we will always be in this position. Government is supposed to serve the people's interests and they are not supposed to be authoritarian. Unfortunately because of the legacy that Apartheid and other brain washing expeditions, these have left our people both white and black frustrated.

§  soutie2 Vuyolwethu Dondashe • an hour ago

 

Irrespective of the reasons/causes the divisions between black and white in S.A. today will take several generations, if not centuries, to be bridged. There is no quick fix solution. however, an approach and thinking as demonstrated by yourself can only help speed things up and is cause for optimism.

EVERY BLACK MAN MUST STAND TALL, WALK TALL AND KEEP HIS HEAD UP"...Oral Presentation by Duma Nokwe (1927-1978)

Being Black in the Work Place

They take my kindness for weakness.

They take my silence for speechless.

They consider my uniqueness strange.

They call my language slang.

They see my confidence as conceit.

They see my mistakes as defeat.

They consider my success accidental.

They minimize my intelligence to "potential".

My questions mean "I'm unaware".

My advancement is somehow unfair.

Any praise is preferential treatment.

To voice concern is discontentment.

If I stand up for myself, I'm too defensive.

If I don't trust them, I'm too apprehensive.

I'm defiant ! if I separate.

I'm fake if I assimilate.

Yet, constantly I am faced with work place hate.

My character is constantly under attack.

Pride for my race makes me, "TOO BLACK".

Yet, I can only be me. And, who am I you ask?

I am that Strong Black Person...

Who stands on the backs of my ancestor's achievements, with an erect spine pointing to the stars with pride, dignity and respect which lets the work place in south Africa know, that I not only possess the ability to play by the rules, but I can make them as well......

Struggle continues......

Oral Presentation by Duma Nokwe (1927-1978) who was Secretary- General of the ANC from 1958 to 1969. On March 9 1956 Duma Nokwe became South Africa's first black advocate.

A woman's worth

A lot of us men do not really understand women that much we always tend to take them for granted and swear that they will never leave us.

I have come to discover that this is not so, and I saw that a lot of South African men do not appreciate a woman as they are supposed to. This is evident in the crimes that are committed on a daily bases against our women. Abuse has become a norm in our townships and yet we men do not see how this is affecting them, our women.

Our women:

This phrase is the first mistake that we make as men, that is to think that we possess women. If it was you that was called as if you are some sort of  possession how would you feel. I know that the phrase can be used to indicate that you have committed yourself to this woman therefore do not condemn the use of the phrase in any way.
My argument is that we should never make a mistake of thinking that the woman is yours to do what ever you feel is right for you.

How should a woman be treated:

In the past 6 years I have been blessed with  a woman that loves me very much, one that I would do anything for and yet in the same breath can not tell you that that woman is mine. She was never mine to begin with. I was done a favor by her. She opened her heart and let it love me, she treats me with respect and she has blessed me with a beautiful boy that I love so much.
That woman has done me a favor by letting me touch her the way I do, by letting her guide down and smilling when she sees me. She has done me a favor by letting me be her husband.

A woman is treated with the respect that she deserves because a woman's worth lies not in her beauty, it is not to be abused, it is rather there to be appreciated. A woman is a creator of happiness and thus she deserves the happiness that is due to her, I am talking about a real woman her, a soul that lives in me through the love that she gives me on a daily basis. Even though she is angry with me I can still feel the love, the respect and the pride that she has when she sees her man, her husband, her friend and lover. I can still see how much she cares even in the midst of misery that I cause her, yet that woman still shines her worth through me and she hopes I become a better man. Even better, not for her - FOR ME! How selfless

A woman should be loved all the time, she must never feel that she is neglected aat any point in time because she does the same for you.

A woman should be listened to, she knows better. She understands the world way better than you do. A woman is POWERFUL.

A WOMAN IS HUMAN, so treat a woman good.

Do not cheat on her.

A woman's definition of cheating goes beyond physical intercourse, it goes further than sneaking out at night to have a  quicky, you see a woman considers every fibre of your body and soul as hers and is not to be shared in anyway with another.
Yes I mean flirting really hurts them, in fact I think it hurts them more than anything because flirting with other women creates an emotional scar for your woman. That emotional scar runs deeper than you can ever imagine. So DO NOT CHEAT ON YOUR WOMAN, she deserves better.

Do not beat her, she is not your punching bag.

Do not make her feel less of a HUMAN

Do not hurt her emotionally

Do not think that she is yours, she is a HUMAN

Do not DISRESPECT her, she is better than that. She is your worth, your happiness and your destiny. SHE WILL GIVE YOUR NAME A LASTING LEGACY.

A woman's worth is not her beauty, her looks or her sweet smell. A woman's worth is her LOVE, CARING, MIND, GENTLENESS, SERENITY, COURAGE, STRONG CHARACTER, EVER LASTING LOVE FOR YOUR CHILDREN.

A woman deserves better.

I am Nkonkotyi, the concerned citizen

The chronicles of Prejudice, senseless and ruthless

If you can remember well in 2008 all foreigners saw their lives being disrupted by violent attacks on them. They were beaten, they were killed and they were forced to flee their homes where they stayed.

Reason: They should go back home.

The same home that they fled from to seek the safety net of Mzantsi, the African Promised Land - the land of opportunities.

What hit me very hard was the reasoning of those that were attacking and killing, "they take our jobs, our wives and our houses."

It became very clear to me that the people of this beautiful country are suffering from a very dangerous syndrome called "entitlement".

When it suits them they refer to the past and demand compensation for a certain thing. BEE comes in mind when I mention that. While on the other hand they forget that the very people that they killed and disoriented are the same people that sheltered our fathers in their own homes not so long ago.

Our fathers were never killed in Angola; they were never killed in Zimbabwe and certainly never killed in Mozambique, Botswana and Zambia. They all came back, and ironically some of them came back with wives. Believe me; no one ever threw a single stone at them for taking their women.

Entitlement is the only reason why Julius Malema and the ANCYL are calling for Nationalization of mines and land grabbing without compensation. These people never learn, I mean we don't have to go very far to see the consequences of chasing away skilled people out of the country.
They are calling for a senseless phenomenon where, investors and other economic drivers will pull their resources and go. These are the people that this country depends on for the retaining of its economic power and yet people who only know Politics and nothing about Economics and business are pushing for something that they don't even have a plan for.

Suppose the nationalisation takes place, what plans do Julius and the ANCYL have in order to sustain the economic position of this country?
How will they entice investors to come and plant their resources here?
What is their plan for the people of this country? Will they also have a share in the country's wealth or will it go to the BEE people? I mean really.

Lastly, the corruption in this nation is so rife that anyone can see that. Oh no, not only the analysts can see it SACP Gauteng, we the ordinary people can. I mean what do you call a spade?

"South African Communist Party (SACP) in Gauteng lodged a memorandum of demands at the broadcaster, insisting, among other things, that "the SABC must play a role of being a primary platform for conveying positive messages from the government"

So what about the things that really matter? I mean why should the SABC be subjected to demands of the SACP or any other party.

My question is this: Isn't News news no matter what it makes the party being reported look? Positive news or negative news - How do you differentiate between the two, who gives you the right to tell us what we should hear and read about how the government is spending our hard earned tax?

"As Mr Nzimande (whose wife worked at the corporation until last year) is also a strong supporter of President Jacob Zuma, it may appear this memorandum by the SACP in Gauteng is intended to put pressure on the corporation to fall into line behind Mr Zuma"

Ultimately we see why the SACP has made this demand, Its all clear from the start.

These people make me really nervous because I know that the future of our children depends on how they make decisions for this country. True, what is decided today will by all means affect our children in the long run e.g. The Apartheid system (Need I say more?)

To conclude for today,

Prejudice still lives in our people today and certainly will be there tomorrow.

Social prejudice
Political prejudice
Racial slurs fly everyday

And yet, we want to be seen as a united front, for me this country has not been in proper hands for a very long time. All I see are people close to public office bearers getting richer and the masses of this country sinking into deeper poverty hence this violence and crime. Unemployment among the youth being the highest unemployment rate in Africa (or so I think) yet we have bodies such as the NYDA, SETA, and all other broken promises that have been put in front of us.

So Mzantsi, country of opportunities - What the hell are you talking about when you say together we can do more?
More corruption,
More rapes,
More murders


I ask... and I know I will never get any answers, because that is classified information

I am Nkonkotyi, the concerned citizen

The beauty of self

It is imperative to know your self worth and to know where to draw the boundry between right and wrong. As a young person one always tries to do the best for themselves and in turn for others.

Self worth can only be measured according to your own standards. The more you undermine yourself the more others do, likewise if you know you value, your ethics and that you are beautiful inside, on one will take that away from you.


The purpose of your life span can only be known by you and if you do not allow yourself to be who you were born to be, you become a dormant soul that is only wondering the face of the earth looking for who knows what. When you realize that you have been going astray, it is never too late for you to find the right path in life.

According to Covington (1989), the "one main, even preeminant, reason that students achieve in school is to protect a sense of worth, especially in competitive situations" (p. 88).

The same can be said about young adults that are in a situation where competition for jobs is fierce. One tends to be with the illusion that they are only good enough for the jobs they currently hold.

So to combat that in my opinion it is important to always remember your self worth, you are not as good as yesterday. You have a beautiful mind, use it.

It is time to know who you are.

You are worthy

I am Nkonkotyi, the concerned citizen.