A woman's worth

A lot of us men do not really understand women that much we always tend to take them for granted and swear that they will never leave us.

I have come to discover that this is not so, and I saw that a lot of South African men do not appreciate a woman as they are supposed to. This is evident in the crimes that are committed on a daily bases against our women. Abuse has become a norm in our townships and yet we men do not see how this is affecting them, our women.

Our women:

This phrase is the first mistake that we make as men, that is to think that we possess women. If it was you that was called as if you are some sort of  possession how would you feel. I know that the phrase can be used to indicate that you have committed yourself to this woman therefore do not condemn the use of the phrase in any way.
My argument is that we should never make a mistake of thinking that the woman is yours to do what ever you feel is right for you.

How should a woman be treated:

In the past 6 years I have been blessed with  a woman that loves me very much, one that I would do anything for and yet in the same breath can not tell you that that woman is mine. She was never mine to begin with. I was done a favor by her. She opened her heart and let it love me, she treats me with respect and she has blessed me with a beautiful boy that I love so much.
That woman has done me a favor by letting me touch her the way I do, by letting her guide down and smilling when she sees me. She has done me a favor by letting me be her husband.

A woman is treated with the respect that she deserves because a woman's worth lies not in her beauty, it is not to be abused, it is rather there to be appreciated. A woman is a creator of happiness and thus she deserves the happiness that is due to her, I am talking about a real woman her, a soul that lives in me through the love that she gives me on a daily basis. Even though she is angry with me I can still feel the love, the respect and the pride that she has when she sees her man, her husband, her friend and lover. I can still see how much she cares even in the midst of misery that I cause her, yet that woman still shines her worth through me and she hopes I become a better man. Even better, not for her - FOR ME! How selfless

A woman should be loved all the time, she must never feel that she is neglected aat any point in time because she does the same for you.

A woman should be listened to, she knows better. She understands the world way better than you do. A woman is POWERFUL.

A WOMAN IS HUMAN, so treat a woman good.

Do not cheat on her.

A woman's definition of cheating goes beyond physical intercourse, it goes further than sneaking out at night to have a  quicky, you see a woman considers every fibre of your body and soul as hers and is not to be shared in anyway with another.
Yes I mean flirting really hurts them, in fact I think it hurts them more than anything because flirting with other women creates an emotional scar for your woman. That emotional scar runs deeper than you can ever imagine. So DO NOT CHEAT ON YOUR WOMAN, she deserves better.

Do not beat her, she is not your punching bag.

Do not make her feel less of a HUMAN

Do not hurt her emotionally

Do not think that she is yours, she is a HUMAN

Do not DISRESPECT her, she is better than that. She is your worth, your happiness and your destiny. SHE WILL GIVE YOUR NAME A LASTING LEGACY.

A woman's worth is not her beauty, her looks or her sweet smell. A woman's worth is her LOVE, CARING, MIND, GENTLENESS, SERENITY, COURAGE, STRONG CHARACTER, EVER LASTING LOVE FOR YOUR CHILDREN.

A woman deserves better.

I am Nkonkotyi, the concerned citizen

The chronicles of Prejudice, senseless and ruthless

If you can remember well in 2008 all foreigners saw their lives being disrupted by violent attacks on them. They were beaten, they were killed and they were forced to flee their homes where they stayed.

Reason: They should go back home.

The same home that they fled from to seek the safety net of Mzantsi, the African Promised Land - the land of opportunities.

What hit me very hard was the reasoning of those that were attacking and killing, "they take our jobs, our wives and our houses."

It became very clear to me that the people of this beautiful country are suffering from a very dangerous syndrome called "entitlement".

When it suits them they refer to the past and demand compensation for a certain thing. BEE comes in mind when I mention that. While on the other hand they forget that the very people that they killed and disoriented are the same people that sheltered our fathers in their own homes not so long ago.

Our fathers were never killed in Angola; they were never killed in Zimbabwe and certainly never killed in Mozambique, Botswana and Zambia. They all came back, and ironically some of them came back with wives. Believe me; no one ever threw a single stone at them for taking their women.

Entitlement is the only reason why Julius Malema and the ANCYL are calling for Nationalization of mines and land grabbing without compensation. These people never learn, I mean we don't have to go very far to see the consequences of chasing away skilled people out of the country.
They are calling for a senseless phenomenon where, investors and other economic drivers will pull their resources and go. These are the people that this country depends on for the retaining of its economic power and yet people who only know Politics and nothing about Economics and business are pushing for something that they don't even have a plan for.

Suppose the nationalisation takes place, what plans do Julius and the ANCYL have in order to sustain the economic position of this country?
How will they entice investors to come and plant their resources here?
What is their plan for the people of this country? Will they also have a share in the country's wealth or will it go to the BEE people? I mean really.

Lastly, the corruption in this nation is so rife that anyone can see that. Oh no, not only the analysts can see it SACP Gauteng, we the ordinary people can. I mean what do you call a spade?

"South African Communist Party (SACP) in Gauteng lodged a memorandum of demands at the broadcaster, insisting, among other things, that "the SABC must play a role of being a primary platform for conveying positive messages from the government"

So what about the things that really matter? I mean why should the SABC be subjected to demands of the SACP or any other party.

My question is this: Isn't News news no matter what it makes the party being reported look? Positive news or negative news - How do you differentiate between the two, who gives you the right to tell us what we should hear and read about how the government is spending our hard earned tax?

"As Mr Nzimande (whose wife worked at the corporation until last year) is also a strong supporter of President Jacob Zuma, it may appear this memorandum by the SACP in Gauteng is intended to put pressure on the corporation to fall into line behind Mr Zuma"

Ultimately we see why the SACP has made this demand, Its all clear from the start.

These people make me really nervous because I know that the future of our children depends on how they make decisions for this country. True, what is decided today will by all means affect our children in the long run e.g. The Apartheid system (Need I say more?)

To conclude for today,

Prejudice still lives in our people today and certainly will be there tomorrow.

Social prejudice
Political prejudice
Racial slurs fly everyday

And yet, we want to be seen as a united front, for me this country has not been in proper hands for a very long time. All I see are people close to public office bearers getting richer and the masses of this country sinking into deeper poverty hence this violence and crime. Unemployment among the youth being the highest unemployment rate in Africa (or so I think) yet we have bodies such as the NYDA, SETA, and all other broken promises that have been put in front of us.

So Mzantsi, country of opportunities - What the hell are you talking about when you say together we can do more?
More corruption,
More rapes,
More murders


I ask... and I know I will never get any answers, because that is classified information

I am Nkonkotyi, the concerned citizen

The beauty of self

It is imperative to know your self worth and to know where to draw the boundry between right and wrong. As a young person one always tries to do the best for themselves and in turn for others.

Self worth can only be measured according to your own standards. The more you undermine yourself the more others do, likewise if you know you value, your ethics and that you are beautiful inside, on one will take that away from you.


The purpose of your life span can only be known by you and if you do not allow yourself to be who you were born to be, you become a dormant soul that is only wondering the face of the earth looking for who knows what. When you realize that you have been going astray, it is never too late for you to find the right path in life.

According to Covington (1989), the "one main, even preeminant, reason that students achieve in school is to protect a sense of worth, especially in competitive situations" (p. 88).

The same can be said about young adults that are in a situation where competition for jobs is fierce. One tends to be with the illusion that they are only good enough for the jobs they currently hold.

So to combat that in my opinion it is important to always remember your self worth, you are not as good as yesterday. You have a beautiful mind, use it.

It is time to know who you are.

You are worthy

I am Nkonkotyi, the concerned citizen.

South Africa we love you our beatiful land, let's show the whole world we can bring peace in our land.

In the wake of ratings downgrades by Moody’s two weeks ago and by Standard & Poor’s on Friday, Mr Loubser said confidence in South Africa could not be built in a climate of corruption, violent industrial action, the undermining of the judiciary and regulatory and tax uncertainty.
 (http://www.bdlive.co.za/national/2012/10/18/sas-leaders-ignoring-crises-says-loubser accessed 18/10/2012)


When one thinks of all these uncertainties that are carrying on in our nation, things become clear to me that we need not sit and take the punches anymore. We are constantly seeing these incidences that have happened in this country and yet we're just not doing enough to have these abolishes.

As a young professional it has become my civil duty to look into these matters and realize that it is not only in the hands of others, but it also in my hands as well. I mean the end to this corruption.



"Moody’s has given South Africa its first downgrade since democracy, rating the country down to Baa1. Thanks a lot. Last week, Standard & Poor’s (S&P) downgraded our sovereign debt for a second time, to BBB from BBB+. We are now a slim two grades above junk status, in line with countries such as Brazil, Russia and Mexico (a pleasant surprise — I thought we might find ourselves in worse company, given the recent turmoil).
Last week, before the S&P downgrade, the rand traded at R8,9942 to the dollar, the highest in more than three years. Beyond economics, that exchange rate affects us psychologically. We go into a tailspin and fear creeps in. If we don’t get our political act together and deal with business and economic challenges, we shouldn’t be surprised if the rand-dollar rate heads back to the R12s and R14s of 2009 and 2001."

(http://www.bdlive.co.za/opinion/columnists/2012/10/18/south-africa-must-unite-to-avoid-the-ratings-tipping-point accessed 18/10/2012)


To me this means that we are moving backwards instead of forward. The pure disrespect for the law and the never ending strike action is just a tip of the iceberg that is the cause of this disaster. Economics is warning us way ahead of the real impact that this is going to have in our country. The corruption that is ripe in our state organs is disgusting and should be the main issue at hand and not succession debates. How is it  going to help us of we keep the same person that has not done anything tangible in terms of economic growth in the past 3 years? Instead we see that his hometown is being upgraded in less that 3 years that he's been in power. And when we seek answers we are met with vague answers and handbooks that mean nothing to us as a people.

Our leaders have done nothing but lip service for our country


FREE  EDUCATION FOR ALL 

Now in this regard, if we want to strive for a non racial society why are we still subjected to having children, just because they are white, refused an opportunity to study further.

"I have fought against white domination, I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the idea of a democratic and free society, it is an idea I hope to live for. And if needs be, it is an idea for which I am prepared to die."

I think in the wake of all this madness we shall remember the above words and remember why the ANC was formed, why it was banned and what, when resurrected, it lives for.

For a free, democratic, non sexist, non racial society for all.

South Africa belongs to all that live in it and it does not belong to those that govern it.


I am Nkonkotyi, the concerned citizen. 

Juju, ANCYL racist and greedy - Loubser - Business News | IOL Business | IOL.co.za

Juju, ANCYL racist and greedy - Loubser - Business News | IOL Business | IOL.co.za


I am not a political analyst or one that will stand up and openly ask obvious questions, but with the recent spate of attacks to our economy I can no longer dtand by and watch while our country is being destroyed. The leadership that we have in this country has a lot of flaws: The secrecy bill, The Zumaville, the ongoing strikes, the killing of cops, the letting go of guilty people on "MEDICAL PAROLE" and then those people mericulously recover and carry on with their lives, like playing golf. The injustices that this leadership is bring to forth to the plights of the people of this nation is appalling and out right wrong.
Instead of amending the wrongs that are in incumbent in this country they are now busy thinking of "How will I stay in the leadership?" - which is disgusting I have to say.
We are a nation that is doomed if we continue to vote these people into power.

In Celebration of the Western Cape

In the recent months, I have had the pleasure to drive through the R310 through to Franschhoek. I thought to myself, oh boy you made a great decision to come and live the Cape Winelands.

Today I would like to introduce to you a small village called Pniel, it is a few kilometres away from Stellenbosch  and I can assure you that you'd love it too...

here's a extract from http://www.sa-venues.com/attractionswc/pniel.php

Western Cape Destinations

Pniel, Cape Winelands

Cape Winelands, Western Cape

If you have ever driven the R310 from Stellenbosch along Helshoogte, a lovely alternative route through to Franschhoek, then you've passed through the little village of Pniel. Linking the two major wine towns in this way makes for a more than pleasant weekend filled with good food, gorgeous views, and wine enough to fill the boot of your car.

The town of Pniel, nestled at the foot of Simonsberg, lies just outside Stellenbosch. Not only does the little village lie surrounded by vineyards and mountains in one of the most wonderful spots in the Western Cape, but its history is very interesting. Pniel started out as 19 hectares of land donated from the farm De Goede Hoop established as a mission settlement for the landless and homeless slaves of 1842 (the British Slavery Abolition Act of 1833 abolished slavery throughout most of the British Empire, including 40 000 slaves in SA).

Today its oak-lined main road is filled with quaint houses, some of the them built for the freed slaves by Sir Herbert Baker (hence the humps in the road, to make sure you take the time to look around you!), whilst its name, which means 'face of God', is taken from Genesis 34 verse 30. In 1843 a further 43 hectares were added to Pniel from the neighbouring farm, Papier Moulen, and the whole area was subdivided into plots and granted to emancipated slave settlers on a permanent tenure basis, to be inherited by their children.

One can organise tours by local residents that include the history and the significance of the 160 year old church.

Open letter to the Republic of Mzantsi

Dear South Africa

I write this open letter to inform you that we as a people of this country are sick and tired of the injustices that are being put on the plight of those who choose to abide by the law.

This year alone has been marred by destruction and lawlessness by our very own ordinary people that walk amongst us. I am referring to the never ending protests and the rate in which heinous crimes have escalated and yet you seem to be doing nothing about. Today we read about strikers throwing stones and killing innocent, honest men that are trying to put food on the tables of their families. We read about the killings of striking miners in Marikana and we have demagogues that pretend to be on our side and yet they are sucking our hard earned tax money and never brought to justice about.

These days South Africa we are scared to walk our own back yards, get up and have that morning jog so that we may be fit and ready for the day’s challenges. Our children are abducted and raped by their own elders and turned into junkies of drugs. South Africa when will this madness end?

Given all the news that we read and the events that we see in our own communities, you seem to be doing nothing about the people that are breaking the law.

Our history has taught us to fight for what is right and right now, you are failing us South Africa and I am sick of it.

I am sick of:

-       Living in fear of my own shadow

-       The strikes that become crime scenes

-       The corruption that you allow our leaders to do

-       Our children vanishing, getting raped and killed

-       You not doing anything about the crime that is committed on a daily basis

I know you are going to say, we should report crime and that we should not take the law into our hands. Those that have done so, do you blame them?

Have you lived in Khayelitsha dear South Africa? Do you know that we get mugged and killed when we go to work in the mornings? Do you know that when we come back from work we get killed for the little money that we wake up at the crack of dawn for?

Have you lived in Gugulethu, where we get mugged at 12H00 a.m. by our very children? They are hungry and they are bored dear South Africa because you have nothing to offer them. Between your so called education system and your so called criminal justice system South Africa, they choose the prison. You know why? Because inside, they sleep on a full stomach, they are given activities to do and they are not punished for their crime. Instead they have the audacity to demand DSTV.

South Africa, I agree with your thoughts that everyone has their own choices to make, but these choices should not stand in our way to live a peaceful and a meaningful life, it should not stop us from providing a good life for our children. South Africa the choices that we make should not infringe on our right to life, to safety, to education. In other words, no one should be missed by the long arm of the law. The law is there to be obeyed, even the President has declared to obey the laws of this country.

I find it very hard to understand, therefore, why we should be victims of crimes by striking workers while the police force is watching. I fail to understand why you have let the N2 highway in Cape Town to be a “war zone” where Law enforcers are killed. I fail to understand why you let the demagogues get away with corruption and I indeed fail to understand why you are not doing anything to help us with this war on Crime. Why do you allow the Cape Flats to be ruled by Gangsters and TIK? Why to do you let our children get raped and killed?

I guess dear South Africa we as a people who choose to abide by the law are asking too much of you.

Yours in sadness

Citizen of South Africa

Are they doing enough to ensure that our rights are known?

There are plenty of people living in the prominent areas that really do not know that the constitution obliges the state to provides the rights enshrined in it.

I was taking a drive this evening and  I was listening to Metro FM and I was lucky enough to catch a really interesting conversation between the DJ and the CEO of the human rights commission. I know, who or what is the Human rights commission and where do we find them.

So I am today making it my responsibility to let those, who are learned and educated and uneducated alike, know who they are.

Extract from their website: www.sahrc.org.za

About the SAHRC

The South African Human Rights Commission is the national institution established to support constitutional democracy. It is committed to promote respect for, observance of and protection of human rights for everyone without fear or favour.

ESTABLISHMENTThe Commission was inaugurated on 02 October 1995 under the Human Rights Commission Act 54 of 1994 and as provided for by the Constitution of the Republic of South Africa Act 200 of 1993.

The Constitution is the highest law in the country and it was adopted to heal the divisions of the past and establish a society based on democratic values, social justice and fundamental human rights. These rights are listed in the Bill of Rights, in Chapter 2 of the Constitution.

CONSTITUTIONAL MANDATE
The mandate of the Commission as contained in Section 184 of the Constitution of the Republic of South Africa, Act 108 of 1996 is as follows:
1. The South African Human Rights Commission must –
   a) promote respect for human rights and a culture of human rights;
   b) promote the protection, development and attainment of human rights; and
   c) monitor and assess the observance of human rights in the Republic.

2. The Commission has the powers, as regulated by the national legislation, necessary to perform its functions, including the power - 

   a) investigate and report on the observance of human rights;
   b) take steps and secure appropriate redress where human rights have been
       violated;
   c) carry out research; and
   d) educate.

3. Each year, the Commission must require relevant organs of
    state to provide the Commission with information on the measures that they have taken
    towards the realisation of the rights in the Bill of Rights concerning housing, health
    care, food, water, social security,education and the environment.

4. The Commission has the additional powers and functions
    prescribed by national legislation.

VISION
Transforming society. Securing rights. Restoring dignity.

MISSION
The Commission as the independent national human rights institution is created to support constitutional democracy through promoting, protecting and monitoring the attainment of everyone's human rights in South Africa without fear, favour or prejudice.

VALUES
The values of the Commission are: intergrity, honesty, respect, objectivity, Batho Pele Principles, and equality 

ORGANISATIONAL STRUCTURE
The South African Human Rights Commission is made up of Commissioners and a Secretariat. Commissioners provide strategic leadership and direct policy. They are appointed by Parliament on a seven-year term and can be reappointed to an additional term.

Are those your real findings or have you manipulated your data?

There have been numerous studies conducted on benefits and demerits of a certain phenomenon that have had the world on its knees. We all believe, well some of us do, and the sad thing is that we take it at face value. The reasons for those that believe is because it's written by people that have credentials that are, sometimes, beyond, our understanding.

I have come to learn that it is not a bad thing to question the findings of those that are professors and doctors of philosophies. This has come to light when I was attending my research module at my varsity. The lecturer shared an interesting story, and I will share it with you...

"Researcher working on benefits of red wine 'falsified data more than 100 times'

• University of Connecticut have started dismissal proceedings against Dipak Das
• Spokesman said the university was 'deeply disappointed by the flagrant disregard' for conduct codes
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By CLAIRE BATES

UPDATED: 10:35 GMT, 12 January 2012

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A U.S. university has said a researcher known for his work on red wine's benefits to cardiovascular health falsified his data in more than 100 instances.

Nearly a dozen scientific journals are being warned of the potential problems after publishing the University of Connecticut professor's studies.

Dipak Das is the director of the Cardiovascular Research Centre at the University of Connecticut

University officials say dismissal proceedings have started against Dipak Das, director of the UConn Health Centre's Cardiovascular Research Centre.

The university said it started investigating Mr Das' work after receiving an anonymous complaint in 2008 of potential irregularities in his research, and that it found 145 instances of fabricated, falsified and manipulated data.

Mr Das has gained attention for research into an ingredient in red wine that has shown potential for promoting health, though the university did not say whether the falsifications occurred in research on that topic.

Dr Nir Barzilai, whose research team conducts resveratrol research at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York, said Das is not a major figure in the field. 

He added the new allegations will not make a material difference to resveratrol research, which is being conducted extensively around the world with encouraging results from many labs.

Enthusiasm in the potential health benefits from red wine grew after a widely reported study in 2006 in which obese mice lived longer, healthier lives after getting resveratrol. Das was not involved in that research.

The university's health centre recently declined to accept £580,000 ($890,000) in federal grants awarded to Das as its review was under way, and has frozen all other external funding for his lab.

The UConn report found what it called 'a pervasive attitude of disregard within the (lab)' for commonly accepted scientific practices.

It also said there were so many problems - and over so many years - that the review board members 'can only conclude that they were the result of intentional acts of data falsification and fabrication, designed to deceive.'

Some examples included several cases in which data was digitally altered; data from one experiment was used to justify findings in another; and controls from one experiment were used to denote another experiment's controls, which are the unchanged factors against which experiments are compared.

Philip Austin, the UConn health affairs vice president, said they are 'deeply disappointed by the flagrant disregard' for UConn's conduct codes, but grateful that the anonymous tipster notified authorities.

'The abuses in one lab do not reflect the overall performance of the Health Center's biomedical research enterprise, which continues to pursue advances in treatments and cures with the utmost of integrity,' he added.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2085609/Researcher-working-benefits-red-wine-falsified-data-100-times.html#ixzz1pJSzxx6q " 

My thoughts on deception and cheating

Sometimes deception can save your life and sometimes it would just destroy it. 

I will dwell on the latter and I will add again that this happened to me. Some one once said to me that when you lie it always comes back and bite you on the ass sooner or later. And in my case it happened sooner than I thought and I thought that it would not be discovered. So in essence what I did was unthinkable - I became offensive and very defensive about the whole thing. In the end I ended up not achieving what I wanted (Which was to cover my ass)

So in so saying, my thoughts on deception and cheating always get you to one place and that place is called loneliness and there's nothing you can do about it. Sure one can apologize as many times as possible but that trust is gone forever and one thing that you will notice is that when ever you are sincere it's not going to be recognized. It will be just another one of your lies. 

So friends be careful and never let yourself fall in the trap that would only consume your happiness.